As I write, my amazing husband is outside cleaning the spark plugs and changing the oil on our car. Our one car. We decided to sell his a few months ago, because it needed more work than it was worth. Since Nate bikes and takes mass transit to work every day anyway, we thought we’d give the one-car-thing a try.

I didn’t think this choice would be so, well, significant. But it has been. We’ve been forced, early in our marriage as it is, to look out for each others’ best interest and start becoming that thing that they always talk about in pre-marital counseling: selfless. When Nate has to get up at 5:30 a.m. to go to work on a Saturday (when the only bus available is a 30 min bike ride away), and I want the car to grocery shop and go to yoga, who needs to drive? I am slowwwwly learning that this belonging that I have so long attached my freedom and individuality to is now not for me, but for us to use.

As we prepare mentally and emotionally for a big move and lots of changes at the end of this summer, it strikes me that this too is a preparation. In our marriage, Nate and I are on the same team. We’re not competing for use of the car, or our finances, or the larger portion of our queen-sized bed. In Canada, it’s not going to be about his education, or my work.  I hope and pray we can make this our combined effort to enjoy a challenge and adventure together.

This passage of scripture was read during our wedding ceremony. Who knew it would take selling a car for it to begin playing out in our marriage?

“Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”
Phillipians 2:1-4


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